"I Carry This Treasure In Me." Love In The Diaries And Letters Of The Classics

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"I Carry This Treasure In Me." Love In The Diaries And Letters Of The Classics
"I Carry This Treasure In Me." Love In The Diaries And Letters Of The Classics

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On Valentine's Day, we look into the letters and diaries of writers and poets of the 19th century and find out how they experienced love suffering, rejoiced in reciprocity and reflected on serious relationships.


The true feelings of Alexander Griboyedov

The only great love of the creator of "Woe from Wit" was Nina Chavchavadze, the daughter of his friend, Prince Alexander Chavchavadze. The playwright knew her from her very childhood, even taught the girl French and playing the piano. The age difference was 17 years.

In 1828, 33-year-old Griboyedov came to Tiflis for several months, where he stayed with his friend Chavchavadze in his family estate. He saw Nina, who had already turned 15 by that time, and disappeared. Griboyedov was completely fascinated by her angelic appearance, manners, and sharp mind. At the same time, many equally worthy suitors wooed her, but the girl refused everyone - she was waiting for true love. The feeling that covered the playwright with his head turned out to be mutual.

Nina married Griboyedov only two months after that meeting. Their married life was very happy, albeit short-lived: Alexander Sergeevich soon died - during an attack by religious fanatics on the Russian embassy in Tehran. On the eve of his departure to this city, he wrote to his beloved:

“Now I truly feel what it means to love. Before I parted with many, to whom I was also firmly attached, but a day, two, a week, and the melancholy disappeared, now the further from you, the worse. Let us endure a few more, my angel, and let us pray to God so that after that we will never be parted again”(from a letter dated December 24, 1828).

"Impatience of the Heart" by Alexander Pushkin

Alexander Pushkin was a famous heartthrob. He dedicated admiring poems to the maid of honor and artist Ekaterina Bakunina, the mysterious Greek beauty Calypso Polykhroni, the daughter of the Austrian banker Amalia Riznich, Countess Elizaveta Vorontsova, Mikhailovsky neighbor Eupraxia Wolf, noblewoman Anna Kern and many others. He forgot about all of them when in 1828 he met young Natalia Goncharova, who was taking her first steps in high society. The poet decided to marry.

Her parents were against: her daughter is too young. Pushkin fell into despair, but did not give up attempts to get married, constantly worrying. When the ice began to thaw, he wrote letters to Natalya Ivanovna, his beloved mother, that life without her daughter was not dear to him: "You allow me to hope. But excuse the impatience of the heart of a patient who cannot have happiness" (from a letter dated May 1, 1829) …

In another message, dated April 5, 1830, the conqueror of ladies' hearts says to the future mother-in-law: "For the first time in my life I was timid, and the timidity in a man of my age can never please a young girl at the age of your daughter."

In the end, the blessing was received: in 1831, he was married to a young Goncharova marriage. Feelings flared up brighter and stronger, in the forced separation, the happy husband constantly sent her letters, inquired about her health. For example, this is what he wrote to her on December 16 of the same year from Moscow to Petersburg:

“My dear friend, you are very sweet, you write to me often, one problem: your letters do not please me. What is vertige? fainting or nausea? have you seen grandma? have you been bled? All this horror worries me. The more I think, the clearer I see that I did a stupid thing, that I left you. Without me, you can do something with yourself. Throw out that and look. Why don't you go? but she gave me my word of honor that you will walk for two hours a day. Is it good? God knows if I’ll finish my business here, but I’ll come to you by the holiday”.

Anxiety about how his wife (whom Pushkin affectionately calls "zhinka", "my angel") spends time without him only intensifies over the years. Not a trace remained of the former lady's tempter - the poet only cares about his family life. Here is what he wrote on October 1, 1833 to his wife, who at that time was pregnant with her second child (or “belly,” as Pushkin preferred to say):

“What are your circumstances? what is your belly? Don't wait for me this month, wait for me at the end of November. Do not bother me, do not frighten me, be healthy, look after the children, do not flirt with the tsar, nor with the fiance of Princess Lyuba "(from a letter dated October 11, 1833).

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Mikhail Lermontov, who did not want "the happiness of the beloved woman"

“I once (three years ago) stole from a girl who was 17 years old, and therefore hopelessly loved by me, a beaded blue cord; I still have it. Who wants to know the name of the girl, let him ask my cousin. - How stupid I was!.."

Such an entry in his diary was made in 1830 by 15-year-old Mikhail Lermontov. Who exactly the young man was talking about is not known for certain: there is a version that he meant Agafya - the daughter of Alexander Stolypin, the adjutant of the commander Suvorov. However, if this is so, then the beauty was quickly forgotten: young Michel, seized by romantic longing and reading by Jean-Jacques Rousseau and Byron, soon became carried away by another. She was Miss Black-Eyes - Ekaterina Sushkova, a future memoirist, and then just a 17-year-old young lady. She, too, did not reciprocate, laughed at his timid poems and gladly arranged cruel pranks for him.

In 1834, Catherine and Mikhail changed places: he completely lost interest in her, and she, on the contrary, was looking for his location, despite the fact that she was preparing to marry Alexei Lopukhin. The groom's sister asked Lermontov to seduce Sushkova in order to upset this wedding: the groom's family did not accept her, bad rumors circulated about her freedom. He, remembering the long-standing humiliation, gladly got down to business with his characteristic cunning, mixed with sweet speeches. Sushkova recalled in her memoirs how on one of the evenings they listened to a romance to Pushkin's poems "I loved you: love still, maybe …", and Michel commented in her ear every stanza. When the last words sounded "… God forbid your beloved to be different!", The insidious seducer said:

“This absolutely needs to be changed; Is it natural to wish happiness to a beloved woman, and even with another? No, let her be unhappy; I understand love in such a way that I would prefer her love to her happiness; unhappy through me, it would have connected her forever with me! But such small, sweet natures, like Lopukhin, what good, and would wish happiness to their subjects!"

Revenge was a success: Sushkova could not resist the pressure of Lermontov, and was soon abandoned by him. In general, the poet had a truly hypnotic effect on women, although he was not at all a handsome man. Here's how, for example, his contemporary Alexander Merinsky spoke about him:

“Lermontov, as it was said, was far from handsome and even awkward in his first youth. He knew this very well and knew that appearance means a lot in the impression made on women in society. With his excessive self-esteem, with his desire to excel and be noticed everywhere and in everything, I don't think that he would look at this small flaw in cold blood. With the knowledge of a woman's heart, with the strength of his speeches and feelings, he managed to win over women, but he saw how other, sometimes insignificant, people easily achieved this."

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"A bright ray of the sun" by Ivan Turgenev

“I am pleased to feel in myself, after seven years, the same sincere, deep, unchanging feeling for you; his influence on me is beneficial and invigorating, like a bright ray of the sun; how lucky I am to deserve to have the glimmer of your life mingle with mine! As long as I live, I will try to become worthy of such happiness; I began to respect myself ever since I carry this treasure in me”(from a letter written in November 1850).

Such lines Turgenev wrote to his girlfriend, singer Pauline Viardot, with whom he was in love. They corresponded for many years, she was among the first to read his new works. Polina was married, but this did not bother her, her husband, or the writer at all.

“My dear friend, try to kill a bear, but a real one, a big one. Just be careful not to catch a cold. You know that the Petersburg climate does not joke with anyone, and with you - less than with anyone else”(from a letter from Ivan Turgenev to Pauline Viardot, written in January 1853).

The writer showed concern for his dear Viardot at every opportunity. It is not known how the story ended, which he mentions in the letter, and whether the singer was really on the hunt. But another case became famous. Turgenev, together with the son of the director of the imperial theaters Stepan Gedeonov, Major A. Komarov and the poet Ivan Myatlev, themselves killed the bear and brought his skin as a gift to the brilliant Polina. These four men were united by two passions - hunting and Viardot's singing.

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"Irrevocable deed" by Leo Tolstoy

The writer and Count Leo Tolstoy - a family man, a father with many children - spoke rather sharply about marriage. He himself married in 1862, and in 1890, with his story "The Kreutzer Sonata," put a fat cross on the very idea of ​​marriage. In the afterword, he wrote: “Marriage cannot contribute to the service of God and people, even if those entering into marriage had the goal of continuing the human race … The ideal of a Christian is love for God and neighbor, there is a renunciation of oneself for the service of God and neighbor. … Carnal love, marriage, is a service to oneself and therefore is in any case an obstacle to serving God and people, and therefore, from the Christian point of view, it is a fall, a sin."

Over the years, he only grew stronger in this thought. He believed that connecting his life with the life of another person is the most dangerous act that can only be done.

“The novels end with the hero and the heroine getting married. We must begin with this, and end with the fact that they are divorced, that is, freed. Otherwise, to describe the life of people in such a way as to cut off the description at marriage is the same as, describing a person's journey, to cut off the description at the place where the traveler got to the robbers."

So he wrote in his diary in 1894. His wife Sofya Andreevna did not share such views. Nevertheless, she called her husband a genius, a great man and invariably helped in everything: she was a keeper of the hearth, and a secretary, and a reader, and a copyist of manuscripts, and a protector.

“Apart from death, there is not a single such significant, abrupt, all-changing and irrevocable act as marriage,” Lev Nikolaevich wrote sadly in 1896 to his daughter Maria.

At that time she wanted to get married, and her caring father instructed: changing independence, calmness to the most difficult and difficult suffering is very difficult. She did not obey the advice and in 1897 became the wife of Prince Nikolai Obolensky.

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