Sexual fantasies are an integral part of our life. Sometimes we attribute to our partner some non-existent traits in order to "warm up" the situation a little, sometimes we come up with unusual situations, for example, imagining ourselves on a desert island. Well, in some cases, even in the place of the partner, we represent
some kind of movie star. According to researchers published in the journal Sex Research, 98 percent of men and 80 percent of women occasionally think in an erotic way of someone other than their partner. But do not rush to draw conclusions.
If from time to time you have sexual fantasies about someone else, this does not mean that you are ready to cheat on your significant other. The fact is that no matter how ideal your spouse or spouse is, not a single person can fully satisfy the need for absolutely everything, including sex. In addition, we are not always able to control our fantasies, and there is no sense at all to influence or be jealous of the partner's fantasies.
Erotic fantasies are the key to the subconscious. Parental attitudes, upbringing, the society in which we live - all this forms in us certain stereotypes about the concepts of "right" and "wrong". There is not always an opportunity to discuss all these attitudes with a partner, and not everyone is ready to do this. But in our fantasies, we can fulfill any, even the most secret dream.
Sex at a distance. If you and your partner have been together for more than a dozen years, then your lives, respectively, are closely intertwined, there is no freedom from the other. Such "involvement" in the life of another does not always have a positive effect on intimacy. Really good sex requires a certain distance, and that is what fantasies give. The element of secrecy and inaccessibility is exciting, and it's good for the relationship in general.
The bed is not a place to dream. It is worth considering if erotic dreams come to your mind during each intimacy with your partner. If you constantly imagine someone else in his place, perhaps this is your psychological "barrier" to escape from the "uncomfortable" feelings that are present in the relationship. You may be bored, angry with your partner, and then your imagination gives you protection from unpleasant intimacy.