Within the framework of the XI All-Russian seminar "Reproductive potential of Russia: versions and contraversions" obstetrician-gynecologist, doctor-sexologist, doctor of medical sciences, professor of the Department of Psychotherapy and Sexology, SZGMG them. I. I. Mechnikov's Ministry of Health of Russia Anna Fedorova made two policy statements, crossing out literally everything that was previously written about sex in glossy magazines:
The concept of the norm of sexual desire in science does not exist.
Freud understood nothing about vaginal orgasm. In the clitoral, however, too.
All other conclusions that you will come across in this article, one way or another, stem from these two.
We thought: a healthy, prosperous person should want sex a lot and often
A healthy, prosperous person does not owe anything to anyone. Moreover, sex. From a medical point of view, there are only two reasons to worry about the absence or irregularity of sexual intercourse:
You are planning a pregnancy. A gynecologist can make (exclude) a diagnosis of infertility if you have sex at least 2 times a week. Otherwise, it can be logical to assume that there are no children, because there is nothing from.
You want sex, but it doesn't. In this case, indeed, a person of any sex suffers both morally (“no one wants me!”) And physically: when excited, the blood rushes to the genitals - this is literally edema. With orgasm, it is removed instantly, in the absence of orgasm - slowly, which leads to stagnation and inflammation in the pelvic organs.
We thought: sex without orgasm is useless and even harmful
Such a conclusion can logically follow from the above: stagnation, inflammation, etc. But women in this sense are more successful than men. First, we have orgasm and satisfaction are not necessarily the same thing. A woman can feel quite happy from the fact that she was stroked, kissed, caressed, or vice versa - from the fact that she was able to bring a man to ecstasy. Have you thought why some ladies feel satisfaction after oral sex? Secondly, orgasm, as we have already found out, is a release of arousal. And women, unlike men, are able to make love without arousal - "sex for a husband" is not such a rare story.
We thought: sexuality depends on hormone levels.
Actually, yes. For men, this is almost 100%. In women - by five to ten percent (our orgasm is still mostly in the head). "Testosterone increases sexual motivation, stimulates erotic fantasies and affects orgasm," sexologist Anna Fedorova said at the congress. Alas, he also affects the appearance. Excess testosterone in women usually leads to acne and hirsutism (excess hair growth on the face and body).
According to the Gedeon Richter Women's Health Index, every second girl with antennae or acne is prescribed hormonal contraceptives with an antiandrogenic effect (that is, reducing testosterone) by gynecologists. For the fight against cosmetic defects, this is truly the ideal solution. But If a woman already has the experience of regular orgasms, then there are no “buts”: she will not miss her, because in women the ability to orgasm depends only on hormones by 5-10%, the rest is “on the head”. However, if in a monotonous mode you reduce testosterone to a girl whose sexuality has not yet been revealed, the poor thing will grow up with the conviction that "sex is a concession to a man."
We thought: vaginal orgasm is mature, clitoral orgasm is infantile
This is what Freud came up with - and for quite a long time no one dared to challenge him. Several generations of women considered themselves inferior due to the inability to experience vaginal orgasms. Only in the second decade of the 21st century, studies (purely anatomical) appeared, showing that the notorious G-spot is the deepest part of the clitoris. That is, vaginal orgasm is essentially clitoral as well. And there are no other particularly sensitive points in the vagina (if there were, no one would be able to give birth naturally).
At the tenth week of intrauterine development, the genital tubercle, which is present in all embryos, begins to transform into a member in some, and into a clitoris in others. Well, yes, the member is more noticeable and impressive. But the part that becomes a vagina in girls looks like a stitch on the scrotum in boys. Let's tell them that only a suture orgasm is mature?
We thought there were half a dozen different types of orgasm.
The world sexological community is leaning towards a simplified version: there are only two types of orgasm - coital and non-coital.
Coitus is sexual intercourse. Anyone - with a man, a woman; with or without penetration; oral, anal, genital - if your partner caressed your genitals and brought you to relaxation, then it was a coital orgasm.
If you were masturbating, shaking on a hard seat on a tram, having an erotic dream, or watching porn, then a similar effect would be called a non-coital orgasm.
Some women achieve a non-coital orgasm easier (thanks to masturbation), while others, on the contrary, are fundamentally the presence of a partner. That is, for some of us, technology is more important, for others - psychological sensations. Both are the norm.
