Psychologist Ekaterina Lebedeva spoke about the main female mistakes in relationships and explained how not to discourage men from wanting to "do something" and why men "do not owe anything to anyone." The specialist is sure that if women stop constantly demanding something, men will automatically show more initiative.
According to Lebedeva, any compulsion discourages the desire to do something and sincerity of intentions. If women stop talking about their desires in an orderly tone and are grateful for a pleasant trifle, more men will behave like a gentleman, and not like "little boys shirking their duties."
It is accepted in society that a man should serve the Motherland, risk his life and protect people who do not even know him. He must support, pay for a woman, even if he is not yet sure of her and they do not live together. Must be fully responsible for the whole family. Should give way in transport, even if he himself is tired. I must earn good money, I must not cry and there is still a lot of things I owe, I must and I must,”says Lebedeva.
In an endless list of responsibilities, a man often has no right to anything, while his most important and important right is to make decisions himself, without pressure, condemnation, the need to meet someone's expectations and fear of being misunderstood, she added.
In modern society, women take away from men the right of the decisive word, the right of a leader, the right to decide for themselves what to spend money on, how to raise children, and then they shout that there are no real men left. They do not understand that they themselves are humiliated, "spread rot" and forced to serve, the psychologist concluded.
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