Now more and more couples appear who prefer open polygamy or so-called polyamory to traditional monogamous marriage. In the first case, he and she allow each other to walk "to the left", but demand only love for themselves. In the second, both he and she have the right to fall in love with whoever they want, and their common life is based on affection, trust and understanding.
What does this concept lead to? Is it the norm in the modern world, or is it a fashion trend that will not stand the test of time? Psychotherapist Viktor Makarov reflects on the topic of free relationships.
Relationships for the most honest
According to Makarov, there are many forms of marriage in the world, and each of them has the right to life (unless, of course, we are talking about something illegal). Adherents of polygamy or polyamory are not necessarily licentious people, eager to justify their indecent behavior. Perhaps they are just being honest with themselves and with their partner.
We can only guess what the exact percentage of spouses is cheating on each other, but each of us has relatives and friends who have extramarital affairs and come up with complex schemes so that their husbands and wives would not guess anything. Polyamores abhor life in lies. They are not afraid to admit to their partner that they will glance at others from time to time, and allow him to do the same.
Likewise, supporters of free relationships do not tolerate jealousy. For them, it is associated with attempts to take power over the life of a stranger into their own hands, as well as with self-doubt. In their opinion, an adult, whole person does not need oaths of allegiance. She is well aware of her worth in the eyes of another, and the fact that this other can give joy to someone else is okay.