American researchers conducted an experiment that proved the usefulness of joint activities for strengthening relationships.
As part of the experiment, 20 couples were involved, who were divided into two groups: the first was given the task to play board games (cards, Monopoly), and the second was given the task of drawing. Before and after the experiment, scientists measured the level of oxytocin in the participants, a hormone released during lovemaking, considering it to be an indicator of the level of closeness of people.
It turned out that in men the hormonal index rises after drawing exercises (2.5 times more than in men from the other group). And women, on the contrary, produced more hormone when playing board games.
“The indicators are interesting in their difference,” says psychologist Yuri Plotnikov. - Men experienced an increase in hormonal levels when drawing, that is, creativity, the creative process. Simply put, when working together. And women have the same picture when playing together. It seems to me that this reflects the psychological perception of relationships as such: for men they are perceived as work, and for women - as a game.
Third, don't try to control each other. This will be perceived as deprivation of the partner's freedom, and not in a relationship, but personal. The strongest relationships are built on trust and honesty.
Fourthly, learn to quarrel wisely - not insulting each other, namely by making claims and proposing solutions. If the quarrel turns into insults, it is better to interrupt the conversation with a phrase like "so, let's cool down and not behave like a child, but we will return to the conversation in 15 minutes." And never mention previous quarrels in conversation. After all, the saying "who remembers the old - that one is out of sight" is true.
Fifth, always remember the little things. This means little pleasant things that please your partner. Compliments, small trinkets and other courtesies. After all, it is easier to say something like “you look great”, but for a person it can be proof of the strength of your love.
