This time I will cite 2 dreams of different women with comments on how a completely different kind of information is hidden behind erotic content.
The dream of the first dreamer: “After unrestrained sex, which I don’t remember at all, I ask the man:“Let's repeat it so that I remember!”I really want to - just horror, he doesn’t seem to mind, but he’s not ready either. I look - he doesn’t have to, a small such segment dangles, and he looks at me, I do it anyway, but he doesn’t get up.” It is important to say here that for some time the dreamer has been working in a therapeutic group on the topic of building relationships. She has a long way to go to free herself for a more mature love, since up to this point the relationship was stormy and passionate, but as soon as the passion ended, the relationship ended too. She saw this dream as the result of her research in this topic. It reflects that she perceives intimacy with a man from a state of unquenchable hunger. Like a man tormented by thirst in the desert, having found an oasis, he loses consciousness from the sudden end of the torment and drinks until he pours back. The same for the dreamer, the state of intimacy - "get drunk" to the bone, as if it would never happen again. It is similar to a binge, where she loses the feeling of contact with herself during sex. By the way, women brought up on love affairs often believe that this is the norm. Not feeling during sex is a sign of its correctness and wild passion. I wonder why this aspect of sex is perceived this way, when if we lose consciousness on the street, in a store, at work, then an ambulance is called for us and our health is carefully checked. In other spheres, we know that contact with oneself is necessary for living oneself at every moment of time, and even more so in an intimate moment. Now let's get back to the dreamer. Having returned to consciousness, she tries to build contact not from a state of deficit, but from other motives - and so far she has failed. In reality, she is faced with the fact that she and her partner have no idea about creating intimacy, in which both are present with their free will and are fully aware of what is happening. Mirror dream of another woman: “I dream that I have a man. We are sitting with him in my room, it is clear that the matter is moving towards intimacy. He is in a silk robe with a pattern of "cucumbers", I can clearly see them. But suddenly he spreads his legs, there is no underwear under the robe, and I see that there is nothing in the place of male organs, except for huge scars. I look at him in panic, and he replies: "You wanted a partner, not a man." On this I woke up. " Here the dream is just the opposite. In an intimate setting, dream images show her wounds on the topic of sexuality. Obvious wounds in a man and less obvious in a woman. The dream showed her that she dreams of a "safe" partner who will not affect the sexual aspect of their relationship. And in the end, it really won't come close to her. If he approaches, and sex is possible, then here we will invite the dreamer to reflect on the topic of what psychological wounds in the sexual topic she is trying to heal by finding an asexual partner. Freud argued that free sexual energy in us, which flows and finds various outlets in the form of creativity, self-realization, of course, sex, is the key to mental health and a full-fledged human existence. The more complex the prohibitions, the more hidden our dramas in this topic, the more difficult it is for our vital energy to flow freely in us. We wish our dreamers to hear the promises of their dreams and move on.