Monogamy Is A Matter Of Choice: Yana Poplavskaya Told What Needs To Be Done So That A Man Does Not Cheat

Monogamy Is A Matter Of Choice: Yana Poplavskaya Told What Needs To Be Done So That A Man Does Not Cheat
Monogamy Is A Matter Of Choice: Yana Poplavskaya Told What Needs To Be Done So That A Man Does Not Cheat

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Yana Poplavskaya, 52, gave advice to married women.

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Actress Yana Poplavskaya raised two sons, went through a divorce, built a trusting relationship with her current chosen one, and now generously shares her experience with other women. In her author's column on the Letidor website, she told what she thinks about fidelity in marriage.

The beginning of the collapse of the marriage, according to Yana Poplavskaya, lies in the neglect of the partner: “Russian women have a very strange attitude towards men. For some reason, many are sure that men are primitive and stupid. Many people think that with these "primitive creatures" it is possible only like this: "To me! To the leg! Near! Voice". But what is this lack of freedom with which I began my column? Lack of freedom is always a desire to throw off the shackles and break free. Give a man freedom - and you will not witness an intra-family rebellion."

“Usually girls and boys are raised differently. They basically lisp with girls so that in the end the princess turns into a pumpkin (that is, into a habalka that shouts to her husband: "Where are you going? What friends? What kind of a bathhouse ?!"). And boys are trained since childhood that they should be men: "How can you not help your mom? You are a man, it's a shame!" Not surprisingly, boys have much more guilt feelings than girls,”she said.

Faced with such an attitude in the family and finding understanding on the side, men often go to their mistresses: “Every meeting there is a holiday with all the consequences: beautiful appearance (although this is not primary), lightness, mutual understanding. When a man says that it is time for him to go home, his mistress sings in a sweet voice: "Yes, of course, dear, I understand. You have children, a wife (as often happens, with very, very bad health). But I will wait for you." By the way, modern mistresses have been upgraded, they do not ask for anything else directly. On the contrary, they still need to be persuaded to accept the gift. And the man, of course, takes this bait. Each person wants to believe that he is loved just like that, that he is expected and nothing is demanded in return."

Mistresses by their behavior provoke a feeling of guilt in men, and behind it comes the desire "to fulfill his function of protection inherent in him by nature." “Awakening the feeling of guilt in a man is the most terrible and powerful tool,” says Yana.

“Monogamy is a matter of human choice. The man has already made his choice by marrying you. From a good life, where a person is loved, where he is expected, no one will ever run away. Men are pretty inert. They always need motivation (and this is comfort in the family, love, mutual respect, joy of meeting). If there is no motivation, they lie on a log on the couch. Yes, there are crises in marriage. But you need to monitor the relationship, you need to take care of yourself. In no case should you turn into a dragon at home. Home is where it is good, where you are hugged, kissed, happy for you, and helped. Home cannot be a prison. They are fleeing from prison. True, they often burn themselves afterwards and want to return."

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